Yesterday morning as I was waiting for our sand to show up, I was poking through the paper .... and read THIS article. It hinges on the conflicting message of "wait for sex, but also get married later" and how it can be a struggle, possibly even make the "wait for marriage" part even more difficult. Interesting.
And I've been chewing over this with my mind ......
Well, the thing of it is it made the point that some religions are pushing people to get married earlier rather than wait. Interesting.
But I never felt pressure to WAIT to get married. I also never felt pressure TO get married. Ok, maybe I did, but it was self-imposed. It had nothing to do with my family or peers.
But at the same time, I have friends who in their professional environments have had clients ask "oh, you're HOW OLD and not married yet?" but it seems those are older people who say that.
SO people are waiting until they're older to get married. So what? The median age is 26 for ladies and 28 for men. So? I was older than that by a year; Erik my more than a decade. SO WHAT? Why this pressure and scrutiny? Is this just some ploy to undermine the abstinence message?
I guess I wonder if this pressure to NOT marry comes from work. Gradaute, get a job, establish a career, work 60+ hours a week, get ahead. Heck, when someone is doing that, who has the TIME to find a quality future spouse? Seriously!
What's wrong with waiting, gaining some life perspective and making an informed and educated decision about a spouse? Why get wrapped up in the numbers of "I'm 4 years older than the median woman so I should be married by now"? Seriously! St. Gianna was in her 30s when she wed. So why are we in such a hurry???? And if someone waits, why heckle them??????
Sorry, random tangent is over. Back to the patio!
EDIT: be sure to read the first comment from my sister's mother-in-law ... she really hit the nail on the head!!!!
2 comments:
As a parent I am thrilled that my daughter has chosen to be selective in men and find out who she is and not settle just to be married. It is one of the things I love about her that she has the ability to stand up to people who always want to set her up.
On the other hand as a woman who has found so much profound joy and fulfillment in being the wife of her father I wish for her the same thing. I want her to have someone to come home to and that will come home to her and accept her for whatever she is that day. I want her to have someone that she can share her heart with. That she will be able to relax with, A person who doesn't judge her. As well as support him in the same manner. It is not important to me whether she marries or not. But I would love for her to feel as loved as I do and to one day have children that she can love as much as I do mine. (And your parents do theirs.)
Being married does not add to your value only your joy.
aaaaaaaaah! Mrs. Laws! You've said exactly what I was trying to say in a rambling way. Guess all this manual labor is going to my brain!!!
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