Yesterday morning as I was waiting for our sand to show up, I was poking through the paper .... and read
THIS article. It hinges on the conflicting message of "wait for sex, but also get married later" and how it can be a struggle, possibly even make the "wait for marriage" part even more difficult. Interesting.
And I've been chewing over this with my mind ......
Well, the thing of it is it made the point that some religions are pushing people to get married earlier rather than wait. Interesting.
But I never felt pressure to WAIT to get married. I also never felt pressure TO get married. Ok, maybe I did, but it was self-imposed. It had nothing to do with my family or peers.
But at the same time, I have friends who in their professional environments have had clients ask "oh, you're HOW OLD and not married yet?" but it seems those are older people who say that.
SO people are waiting until they're older to get married. So what? The median age is 26 for ladies and 28 for men. So? I was older than that by a year; Erik my more than a decade. SO WHAT? Why this pressure and scrutiny? Is this just some ploy to undermine the abstinence message?
I guess I wonder if this pressure to NOT marry comes from work. Gradaute, get a job, establish a career, work 60+ hours a week, get ahead. Heck, when someone is doing that, who has the TIME to find a quality future spouse? Seriously!
What's wrong with waiting, gaining some life perspective and making an informed and educated decision about a spouse? Why get wrapped up in the numbers of "I'm 4 years older than the median woman so I should be married by now"? Seriously!
St. Gianna was in her 30s when she wed. So why are we in such a hurry???? And if someone waits, why heckle them??????
Sorry, random tangent is over. Back to the patio!
EDIT: be sure to read the first comment from my sister's mother-in-law ... she really hit the nail on the head!!!!